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Emotional Fitness for Couples  Large Print 16pt Author Barton Goldsmith
ISBN-10 9781459614512
Release 2011-07-01
Pages 212
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This book offers you a step-by-step progam you can use to hone your relationship skills to championship levels-in just ten minutes a day. You can use the book alone, or you can try the exercises with your partner, going through the book in order or choosing those chapters most relevant to your particular goals. Each chapter is short-about two or three pages-and succinct. They combine easy exercises and tools with concise, snappy commentary on issues. Topics include: what the word "love" really means; the importance of physical touch; how to date your mate; how to achieve emotional balance; ways to deal with finances; tricks for stopping an argument before it starts; goal-setting strategies for couples; ways to deal with being apart; tips for coping with hurt before it turns into resentment; and much more.



Emotional Fitness for Intimacy

Emotional Fitness for Intimacy Author Barton Goldsmith
ISBN-10 1608824535
Release 2009-04-02
Pages 208
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It's easy to lose the spark in your relationship when you're living day to day with your partner. But with a little effort, it's also easy to recapture the intimacy and excitement of your dating days again. Get swept up in a love affair with your spouse or long-term partner using this collection of relationship tips and ten-minute exercises. You'll not only discover new ways to rekindle intimacy, but you'll also find the mutual understanding you need to smooth over daily squabbles and set the foundation for lifelong romance. Emotional Fitness for Intimacy is filled with insights and exercises that will enhance the intimacy level in any relationship. For couples who would like to see dreams become reality, Goldsmith points the way. -Gary D. Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages and Love As a Way of Life This book is an encyclopedia of wise and useful information for couples who want to deepen their relationship. I recommend it to all couples. -Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want



Emotional Fitness for Intimacy

Emotional Fitness for Intimacy Author Barton Goldsmith
ISBN-10 1608824535
Release 2009-04-02
Pages 208
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It's easy to lose the spark in your relationship when you're living day to day with your partner. But with a little effort, it's also easy to recapture the intimacy and excitement of your dating days again. Get swept up in a love affair with your spouse or long-term partner using this collection of relationship tips and ten-minute exercises. You'll not only discover new ways to rekindle intimacy, but you'll also find the mutual understanding you need to smooth over daily squabbles and set the foundation for lifelong romance. Emotional Fitness for Intimacy is filled with insights and exercises that will enhance the intimacy level in any relationship. For couples who would like to see dreams become reality, Goldsmith points the way. -Gary D. Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages and Love As a Way of Life This book is an encyclopedia of wise and useful information for couples who want to deepen their relationship. I recommend it to all couples. -Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want



The Happy Couple

The Happy Couple Author Barton Goldsmith
ISBN-10 9781608828746
Release 2013-12-01
Pages 184
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Bad habits: we all have them! But what happens when these bad habits extend to our relationships? Whether it's interrupting your partner mid-sentence, acting bored when they are speaking, or teasing them in hurtful ways—over time these bad habits can lead to resentment, and can mean the difference between a wonderful, close relationship, and one characterized by conflict or unhappiness. Fortunately, for all of us, good relationship habits can be learned (or re-learned), and bad habits can be un-learned. Named one of “America’s Top Therapists” by Cosmopolitan magazine, prominent Los Angeles-based psychologist and radio talk show host Barton Goldsmith, PhD, offers readers simple, accessible tips and tools for developing and strengthening positive relationship habits such as gratitude, humor, togetherness, and honesty. Habits can be hard to break, but if you love someone, you’ve got to make sacrifices. When you consider that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, it becomes clear that many of us may need help in making a relationship thrive. The Happy Couple shows how simple acts of kindness and generosity can increase the likelihood of a relationship being happy, healthy, and long-lasting.



The Science of Trust Emotional Attunement for Couples

The Science of Trust  Emotional Attunement for Couples Author John M. Gottman
ISBN-10 9780393707403
Release 2011-05-09
Pages 496
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An eminent therapist explains what makes couples compatible and how to sustain a happy marriage. For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.



Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies Author Brent Bradley
ISBN-10 9781118512401
Release 2013-07-08
Pages 384
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A practical, down-to-earth guide to using the world's most successful approach to couple therapy One of the most successful therapeutic approaches to healing dysfunctional relationships, emotionally focused couple therapy provides clients with powerful insights into how and why they may be suppressing their emotions and teaches them practical ways to deal with those feelings more constructively for improved relationships. Unlike cognitive-behavioural therapy, which provides effective short-term coping skills, emotionally focused therapy often is prescribed as a second-stage treatment for couples with lingering emotional difficulties. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies introduces readers to this ground-breaking therapy, offering simple, proven strategies and tools for dealing with problems with bonding, attachment and emotions, the universal cornerstones of healthy relationships. An indispensable resource for readers who would like to manage their relationship problems independently through home study Delivers powerful techniques for dealing with unpleasant emotions, rather than repressing them and for responding constructively to complex relationship issues The perfect introduction to EFT basics for therapists considering expanding their practices to include emotionally focused therapy methods Packed with fascinating and instructive case studies and examples of EFT in action, from the authors' case files Provides valuable guidance on finding, selecting and working with the right EFT certified therapist



An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples

An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples Author Veronica Kallos-Lilly
ISBN-10 9781317804871
Release 2014-08-13
Pages 200
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This workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It is recommended for use with couples pursuing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It closely follows the course of treatment and is designed so that clinicians can easily integrate guided reading and reflections into the therapeutic process. The material is presented in a recurring format: Read, Reflect, and Discuss. Readings help couples look at their relationship through an attachment lens, walking them through the step-by-step process of creating a secure relationship bond. 33 Reflections invite readers to engage with the material personally, expanding their own awareness and ability to tune into their partner. Discussion sections suggest relationship-building exercises and a framework for conversations that promote safety, disclosure, and engagement. Case examples, along with informative illustrations, are scattered throughout the book to validate, illustrate, and inspire couples along their journey. Clinicians conversant with EFT can use this workbook to extend the effectiveness of their work with couples by giving them structured tasks to work on between sessions. For clinicians training in EFT, the book can guide them in staying focused on the EFT roadmap and illuminate how important change events unfold.



Emotional Fitness at Work

Emotional Fitness at Work Author Barton Goldsmith
ISBN-10 1601630816
Release 2009
Pages 240
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"Emotions have always played a role in business relationships, but too often they have been 'under the radar' and ignored. Dr. Goldsmith shines the light on emotions and how they can lead a business to greater levels of success." Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages "The economic meltdown is causing a tidal wave of emotions in the workplace.... Dr. Barton Goldsmith gives us the tools we need to keep our businesses moving forward and to help us weather this storm of panic and pain. Get it and keep it handy." Marjory Abrams, publisher, BottomLine Personal ""Emotional Fitness at Work" is a must-read for anyone currently in the workforce." Debra Mandel, PhD, author of Your Boss Is Not Your Mother As the world's economies continue to melt down, Dr. Goldsmith gives us the information we need to help make it through this difficult and scary time. Anyone who wants to keep his or her joband any leader who wants to keep his or her company afloatneeds to learn how to deal with and utilize the power of emotions. Packed with simple tools, tactics, tricks, and techniques, "Emotional Fitness at Work" will help you to see how feelings directly impact your workforce, to do comprehensive evaluations, and to create an empowered team, even if you've never done it before. "Emotional Fitness at Work" will cover: * Using emotions to work through the recession. * How negative thinking affects the bottom line. * Truly motivating your team to reach the next level. * Reducing anxiety and depression in the workplace. * Accepting responsibility and making it profitable.



When Love Stumbles

When Love Stumbles Author Randi Gunther
ISBN-10 160882442X
Release 2011-06-02
Pages 248
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Discover the 8 Most Common Ways Love Stumbles and What to Do About Them Falling in love is easy. Staying deeply committed to your relationship, even when love stumbles, is the greater challenge. Eight major stumbling blocks can cause even the most passionate couples to drift apart-and chances are, if you're in a committed relationship, you've brushed up against at least a few of these. When Love Stumbles offers a plan for reversing problematic relationship patterns by making simple changes to your everyday habits. You'll find that these small but important steps will help your relationship find its footing once again. Remove the eight major stumbling blocks: •End disillusionment and find fulfillment •Banish boredom by adding excitement to your relationship •Turn destructive conflicts into constructive challenges •Shift your focus from self-preservation to putting your partner first •Stop struggling solo and start operating as a team •Go from feeling like you're on trial to feeling unconditionally loved •Instead of pursuing outside interests, recommit to each other •Different dreams? Find common ground in new mutual goals



365 Questions For Couples

365 Questions For Couples Author Michael J Beck
ISBN-10 9781440519666
Release 1998-03-01
Pages 224
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What does he really think? How many things would you like to know—but don't—about your partner? Do you wish your partner would ask you about your past, your goals, your inner thoughts? When was the last time the two of you shared a dream, a memory, or a fantasy together? 365 Questions for Couples shows you how to get closer to your partner by asking and answering thought-provoking questions on such subjects as: Your relationship Relationship with others Goals and fantasies Life experiences Memories Sex Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. The only rule is that you cannot ask a question that you refuse to answer yourself. So put some quiet time aside, make yourself comfortable, and enter together into the world of goals, dreams, emotions, and your previously hidden past!



201 Relationship Questions

201 Relationship Questions Author Barrie Davenport
ISBN-10 1517190517
Release 2015-09-03
Pages 188
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Question Your Way to Lasting Love and IntimacyWouldn't it be great to have a relationship coach on call to help you and your love partner have the most joyful, loving relationship possible? What if you had someone who knew exactly what to ask to draw out your deepest desires and help you calmly navigate areas of pain or conflict? Having a coach is wonderful, but if you know the right questions to ask one another, you can start right now building the relationship you both desire. The Power of QuestioningMutual questioning is a powerful technique to draw out deeper emotions and desires and address potential areas of conflict before they disrupt your closeness. The right questions inspire understanding, compassion and action for positive change. Questions like: * What does unconditional love mean to you? * Do I do anything to make you feel disrespected? * How can I listen to you better so you feel completely heard? * What should I never say to you, even in anger? * How can I make you feel more desirable and sexy? Take Control: How Relationship Questions Can Change Your LifeWhen you and your partner embark on a mutual questioning journey, you are committing to an intimate, satisfying, joyful life together. Rather than waiting for conflict and resentment to inflict a surprise attack, you're proactively addressing the needs and wounds both of you carry and reinforcing your commitment to the relationship above all else. This journey will be enlightening, fun, and sometimes challenging -- but the rewards are immeasurable, as you lay the groundwork for a lifetime of happiness together. ORDER: 201 Relationship Questions: The Couple's Guide to Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy201 Relationship Questions is your guide to creating a happier, healthier, sexier, and more intimate connection. Share each question, read the question prompts, invite discussion, and keep a personal journal of the changes you both want to make. Action is required, as your answers to the questions reveal exactly what you need to do to protect and strengthen your connection.Set aside sacred time together for questions each day, and keep your relationship fresh and exciting for a lifetime.



The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy

The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Author Susan M. Johnson
ISBN-10 9781136916052
Release 2012-02-24
Pages 384
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Since its original publication in 1996, this volume has been a helpful guide to therapists in the practice of emotionally focused therapy. This second edition addresses the many changes in the field of couples therapy, including updated research results linked to clinical intervention and new information on using EFT to address depression and PTSD. A new section covers the growth of couples therapy as a field and its overall relevance to the mental health field, accompanied by coverage of how recent research into the nature of marital distress is consonant with EFT. Other new features are a section on EFT and feminism, as well as a section on cultural competence for the EFT therapist. Written by a leading authority on emotionally focused couples and marital therapy, this second edition is an up-to-date reference on all aspects of EFT and its uses for mental health professionals.



Relationship Saboteurs

Relationship Saboteurs Author Randi Gunther
ISBN-10 1608820432
Release 2010-06-03
Pages 224
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Do you seek a healthy romantic relationship, but continue to find yourself repeating the same negative behaviors that may have ended your relationships in the past? Have you already identified destructive patterns, yet continue to repeat them despite your desire for a strong and lasting romantic relationship? If so, you are not alone. Relationship Saboteurs is an easy-to-follow guide that will help you identify and end your relationship-destroying tendencies once and for all. The book explores the ten most common relationship-undermining behaviors and shows you how to overcome them. By understanding and addressing the patterns that erode romance, you can learn to stop sabotaging your love life and prepare yourself for the healthy romantic relationship you deserve. Learn to overcome these toxic emotions and behaviors: •Insecurity•Needing to control •Fear of intimacy •Needing to win •Pessimism •Needing to be center stage •Addictions •Martyrdom •Defensiveness •Breaking trust



Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy

Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy Author Brent J. Atkinson
ISBN-10 039370386X
Release 2005
Pages 374
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Over the past thirty years, groundbreaking studies on the relationships of couples have identified precisely what intimate partners must do in order to have successful partnerships. Yet even when they know what would work, partners often find that they are unable to do these things. Why is this? Provocative new neurological research suggests that old habits die hard for a reason?hey may be woven into the fabric of brain states. We are wired for specific kinds of neural activations very early in life and these habitual responses are automatically activated in daily living, often without conscious awareness. Once they are set, these activation patterns (also known as response states) are likely to continue throughout a person? life. For the most part, we don? volunteer for these response states; we simply find ourselves under their influence. When any one of them is activated, we may lose the capacity to choose freely our thoughts and actions. It? as if, at that moment, someone else is in charge. For these reasons and others, people in relationships may find it extremely difficult if not impossible to change how they respond to their partners. No matter how much partners want to change, their wired response states oppose their intentions. Part 1 of this book is a tour of the revolutionary discoveries emerging from neurobiology and the science of intimate relationships. Atkinson shows readers the implications of these discoveries for those who seek to change interpersonal habits and improve intimate relationships. These neural operating programs may also help explain why psychotherapies often fail to promote lasting change. In Part 2 readers will find a remedy for this problem. Atkinson introduces Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C), a step-by-step approach to working with couples that facilitates relationship change by promoting increased levels of neural integration in each partner. In PET-C, partners learn to identify mood states which perpetuate outmoded thoughts, attitudes, and habits of interaction. Once identified, clients are then assisted in the process of "re-wiring" these states for more flexibility and then activating alternate states which support new avenues for thought and action. Extensive case examples and ample illustrations of therapeutic dialogue demonstrate for readers the ins and outs of implementing PET-C with their clients. This book is supplemented by a companion CD-ROM titled Developing Habits for Relationship Success. The CD-ROM has two workbooks?or clients with male partners and clients with female partners?hat can be personalized with the client? name and printed out on demand. The workbooks contain dozens of take-home exercises designed to help clients identify troublesome response states and then develop new emotional habits. The discovery and understanding of the brain? neural operating systems is of huge importance for anyone who seeks to make sense of troubled relationships and understand why partners often persist in self-defeating interactions. Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy is essential reading for anyone working with couples and seeking a new way to approach and understand human interactions.



52 E mails to Transform Your Marriage

52 E mails to Transform Your Marriage Author Samantha Rodman
ISBN-10 9781626254626
Release 2016-11-01
Pages 224
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Press “send” for amazing results! With 52 E-mails to Transform Your Marriage, you’ll find a year’s worth of e-mails to help you reconnect with your spouse, reignite intimacy, and keep your love alive. There’s no doubt marriage can be a challenge—we’ve all heard that half of marriages end in divorce. A common problem you may face as a couple is feeling stuck or disconnected—lonely within the marriage—as if you and your spouse were worlds apart, even as you present a united front. Attempts to discuss the problem may lead to painful arguments, and even couples therapy may prove more expensive and time-consuming than effective, putting each of you on the spot and moving so quickly that you may leave, session after session, without feeling closer. E-mail, however, can be a much less threatening way to communicate your true thoughts and feelings. Based on the author’s popular online relationship coaching sessions, each chapter of this book provides an e-mail writing assignment focused on a different topic, such as sex, intimacy, communication, trust, and the future. These weekly assignments will grant you both the time to write—which can be extremely therapeutic in itself—and read what the other has to say without the need for an immediate response. With 52 E-mails to Transform Your Marriage, you’ll discover useful tips for good communication, learn how to respond to messages with empathy and validation, and be well on your way to rediscovering and sustaining the love that brought you together in the first place.



How to Love Me

How to Love Me Author Ali Davis
ISBN-10 140274918X
Release 2007
Pages 93
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Geared specifically to women and the men who care for them, How to Love Me is designed to heat up and enhance a couple’s relationship. Filled with probing, inventive questions on love and sex, it’s sure to elicit eye-opening answers and take lovers on an exciting journey of discovery. Most important of all, the guide helps women and men express their true feelings to their partners and reveal exactly how they want to be loved, emotionally and physically. The questions range from the quirky to the serious, inquiring into expectations, hopes, dreams, and desires. From your turn-ons to taboos, feelings towards your partner to thoughts about marriage, these questions allow you to articulate it all!



Emotional Bullshit

Emotional Bullshit Author Carl Alasko Ph. D.
ISBN-10 9781440658150
Release 2008-12-26
Pages 272
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An invisible disease is affecting every aspect of your life. Insidious and creeping, it shapes you everyday – from the bedroom to the boardroom, from your shopping splurge, to the extra helping at your holiday dinner, to the dangerous liaison at work. It’s called emotional bullshit, and it’s encroaching on your happiness. In Emotional Bullshit: The Hidden Plague That Is Threatening to Destroy Your Relationships – AND HOW TO STOP IT , Carl Alasko, Ph.D. sheds light on the stealth disease of Emotional BS: that is, the Toxic Trio of denial, delusion and blame that we fall back on when faced with difficult situations. These three dynamics work together to distort and manipulate truth, create a delusional reality, and shift blame when things fall apart. With the toxic trio in action, it’s all but impossible to get at the heart of the problem. The result, however, is obvious – no one can achieve happiness and fulfillment. And when used in the world of business, Emotional BS can lead to financial ruin. In his over twenty years working with individuals, couples and families as a psychotherapist, Dr. Alasko has come to recognize the same problem underlying all his patients’ unhappiness. When confronted with an unpleasant or inconvenient reality, they fall prey to the TOXIC TRIO: DENIAL: “My girlfriend enjoys a ‘good time’ at parties, sure. But she doesn’t have a drinking problem.” Decoded: There is no problem. Everything is okay. You’re exaggerating See: the drinker, the overweight, the wallet full of maxed-out credit cards (pg 12) DELUSION: “Working late isn’t a problem. My family will understand when I get that big promotion.” Decoded: I’ll tell you what’s true. Don’t believe what you see – believe me. See: the demanding boss, the neglected partner, the alienated friend (pgs 63, 138) BLAME: “She knew I hated sloppiness when she married me. Why can’t she pick up after herself?” Decoded: You’re the problem. I was forced to do it; I had no choice. See: the clean freak, sub-prime mortgages, Napoleon Bonaparte (pgs 45, 84) When the Toxic Trio works together, we become stuck in a cycle of emotional BS, preventing us from moving on or learning from our mistakes. Emotional bullshit’s pervasiveness in society can be found everywhere, from rising divorce rates, weight gain, and debt, to angry outbursts at work, loss of control over our children, and a lack of fulfillment in our lives. The solution is deceptively simple: You focus on your Core Needs, which is any behavior that advances your long-term best interest, and ask yourself the Master Question—“What do I need from this situation?”. Honestly addressing the larger issue – not just in the short term – cuts the BS in every relationship: between friends, co-workers, couples, in parenting and especially in business. Frank, concise and unapologetic, EMOTIONAL BULLSHIT sheds light on this hidden plague, and provides concrete advice to keep it from infiltrating your relationships.